Tuesday, March 26, 2013

Becomming a Mother - the First 5 Months

Wow can't believe how fast time has gone. I want to write some things down before the next 5 months wiz pass again.

I found on the one hand there was an instinct that kicked in, on the other hand it has been such a learning experience. It took A and I just under a week to learn to breastfeed, it wasn't instinctive and the midwives at the hospital had to help me. But at 5 months are still going strong!
My postpartum hospital experience was mixed. During delivery I had a wonderful midwife who was supporting and caring and helped me get breast feeding on the right track but after that the midwives wanted to do things their own way. On the second night at the hospital the midwives brought A to me to feed him. He wasn't feeding right so I started to burp him. The midwife appeared and told me he doesn't need to be burped, he needs to be fed. On cue A let out a lovely loud burp.

I fell in love with A as soon as they put him on me, but I feel that I truly bonded with him after about 6 weeks. Early on I struggled changing from a structured, in control life to give over myself completely to the needs of a little baby. At about 8 weeks I thought I needed to be in control so I read about a routine and tried to put it in place on day 2 we both ended up crying. I decided to just go with it and give him what he needs when he needs it and we've never looked back. Our routine developed naturally and we're both happy.

The biggest leasons that I learned so far:

Patience and Acceptance
Staying at home is the best decision I made.
Babies change quickly. Being a first time mom I thought A would be stuck to my breast 6 hours a day, now I have trouble getting him to stay on for 6 minutes straight. He gets so distracted.
I am used to interrupted sleep. Twice a night is nothing for me, but more then 3 is tough!
Since they grow so quickly I am living in the moment more, trying to take things more slowly. I love having A on my lap and we just hang out for the better part of the day.
I was too hard on myself in the beginning. It's okay to stay home some days!
Becoming a mother takes vanity out the window.
No one will ever love A as much as I do.
I think to have  the best motherhood experience one needs to know who you are, and know what your child needs.

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